This is a bit of a touchy subject for me as it has to do with a family member.
She was diagnosed with breast cancer over 2 years ago. She’s had both breasts removed, lymph nodes, and went through chemotherapy, horrendous side effects that accompany chemo, and side effects from her medication.
Now before I go on, my mum and I have had a tempestuous relationship over the years. She left when I was 14 and did her Shirley Valentine act for a few years, before coming back penniless and with a newborn (my bro is 18 now and a gorgeous young man who I love dearly). She’s also done some deeply unpleasant things to me over the years. But hey, blood is thicker than water after all.
Anyways I digress. She’s used her cancer diagnosis to manipulate people in an attempt to get lots of sympathy. She’s never made any attempt to become healthy in all her years I’ve known her. So it comes as no surprise to me that she doesn’t give a toss about her body now she has cancer.
She had been taking this medication called femara and it gives her alot of joint pain. I’m not sure how much, as I’m 3000 miles away, and she does have a tendency to exaggerate things for me. I could call my brother now and he’d tell me she’s fine.
She called me a couple weeks ago to tell me she wanted to stop taking her medication as she was in pain. I hung the phone up on her, not before calling her selfish.
This is where my quandry lies. I can’t imagine what it’s like to have cancer, I hope I never have to find out. But if I did, I would fight with everything I have to live as long as I could. I still would have plenty of things I’d want to do.
There are people who aren’t even given a chance to fight it.
Is she selfish for wanting to stop taking her pills or am I scared for the fear of the unknown?
I’ve already had my dad die, not sure I’m prepared for my mum to die, regardless of how horrendous she’s been to me.