My son is an only child, okay?
Ever since the boy was born nearly 5 years ago(time flies), I have lost count the amount of time people have asked me when we’re going to try for another baby. Why can’t it just happen naturally, why do I have to try? Incidentally, I had a miscarriage two and a half years ago, so, it did happen thank you very much, but sadly not meant to be.
People assume, that I would naturally want to keep having a go at it and give the boy a baby brother or sister. And the truth is I’m not sure I even want to.
I like our unit of 3. The boy is happy, he wants for nothing and perhaps this may come across as being selfish, we have a nice life, go on a couple holidays a year and I can go out whenever I like as does the hub(we take turns to look after the boy).
If I had a pound everytime someone said ‘oh I’m sure the boy would love a baby brother or sister’ I’d be a squillionaire by now. If you ask the boy, he’s just not interested, he’d rather play with the dog.
The boy did not sleep through the night until he was over 2, and those were the most exhausting, draining two years of my life. We have no family nearby, so we couldn’t pawn him off on the grandparents. It also didn’t help that the hub was travelling back and forth to Italy every 2 weeks for the first year.
I know people say, ‘you’ll be fine, you know what not to do 2nd time around’, but I’m just not sure I’m prepared to find out.
What really tipped me over the edge, was last night when an acquaintance asked me when I was going to have another baby. I snapped. Why do I have to have another baby? Shouldn’t I just be happy what I have? Some people can’t have any! Then she said that the hub and I should just f**k until I get pregnant. For one it’s none of her business and two our sex life is non existent. So there.
All I want is for people to respect our decision to stick with just one child. I’m not 100% ruling out anymore, but please don’t tell me my child will be deprived out of not having any siblings. I have enough catholic guilt, ta v much!
Be grateful for what you have.